OHIO — The relentless bullying became too much to handle for an 11-year-old girl with a “crooked” smile, her mother said.
At 3 years old Bethany Thompson was diagnosed with a brain tumor and battled through radiation treatments. Though cancer-free since 2008, treatment caused nerve damage that changed Bethany’s smile. That, and her curly hair, led to bullying, said Bethany’s mother, Wendy Feucht.
Feucht said after a particularly tough Wednesday with bullies, Bethany told her best friend she couldn’t take it anymore, and was going to take her own life.
The Cable, Ohio, sixth grader killed herself that afternoon, Oct. 19.
Her friend’s father called Bethany’s mom, but it was too late. Bethany had already died.
“There’s a piece missing, I’ve had this constant in my life for 12 years and now it’s gone,” Feucht said. “Nothing’s going to be able to fill that hole.”
“She was my princess, that’s my baby girl. Life revolved around her for me,” said Bethany’s dad, Paul Thompson.
Her family and friends remember Bethany as generous and loving, and full of life. She loved swimming and animals and listening to music.
School investigated the problem
Triad Middle School was aware of the bullying problem, Feucht said. She had talked to the principal as recently as the Monday before Bethany’s death. The principal told her he was investigating, Fuecht said.
“Something has to change, something is broken in the system and there are lots of different ways that this could have been handled,” she said.
In hindsight, Fuecht said she didn’t get mad enough; to parents she said, “Call them, call them every day if you have to and eventually they’ll be tired of hearing from you and actually do something.”
Triad School District Superintendent Chris Piper confirmed the school was aware of the bullying.
“Last school year, district officials investigated a complaint raised by the student and appropriately resolved the same. As many school districts across the country are currently doing, the Triad Local School District is undertaking efforts to bolster anti-harassment and bullying training for both students and staff,” Piper said in a statement.
Bethany studied in the Triad school system her whole life, so while her family considered transferring Bethany, her mom thought it safer to stay in a school where everyone knew her story.
The young girl saw a counselor to help her find coping mechanisms and deal with her struggles with self-esteem, Fuecht said.
Having the support of friends wasn’t enough to keep the bullying away, however, and some boys in her class were known to bully Bethany and others regularly, Feucht said.
Bethany and her friend went to administrators with anti-bullying posters on Bethany’s last day at school, and were told they couldn’t be used, Feucht said.
They made signs with anti-bullying slogans like “Buddies, not bullies,” she said.
A community of support
The community has rallied around Bethany’s family.
Nearly 400 people flocked to the North Lewisburg United Methodist Church on Sunday evening for a fundraiser to cover funeral costs. The raffle dinner event raised over $5,500, in addition to $2,000 offered in donations, said Ashley Cozad, a family friend who organized the event.
Donations and messages of condolence have poured in from all over the country and are continuing, Cozad said.
The family plans to use the remaining funds to set up a scholarship fund in Bethany’s name and to raise anti-bullying awareness.
As the family tries to move on with a positive memory of Bethany, Feucht wants others to learn from their experience and identify with her daughter’s struggles. “I am Bethany. Anyone who’s been picked on, they’ve been Bethany.”
They hope to be a part of movement, and that Bethany’s memory will live on as a reminder of the importance of kindness and a zero-tolerance for bullying.
“If this were the last life, that her death could stop it, she would be thrilled,” Feucht said.
Resources: Getting help
If you or someone you know is considering suicide, contact the U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) . It is a free, 24/7 service that offers support, information, and local resources. You can also click here for additional hotlines within your state.
Depression and suicidal thoughts are often exhibited in many ways. Warning signs for suicide can include, but are not limited to, talking about wanting to die; conveying feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness or being a burden; and displaying extreme moods.
If someone you know exhibits warning signs of suicide, the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention advises that you do not leave the person alone, call a prevention hotline, and take the person to an emergency room or seek help from a medical or mental health professional.
For more information on suicide prevention, including additional resources and warning signs, you can visit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s website.”