Many husbands would be thrilled to get perfect boudoir photos of their wives, but one was not happy — and he has a good reason for it.
Boudoir photographer Victoria Haltom posted to Facebook on Oct. 12 about a time in her career when she “messed up really badly.”
Haltom talks about a woman in her mid-40s arriving for her boudoir photoshoot and asking her to photoshop her flaws.
“I want you to photoshop all of my cellulite, all of my angry red stretch marks, ALL of my fat, and all of my wrinkles….just make it go away. I want to feel gorgeous just ONCE,” she said.
The photographer did as she was told. But later realized she made a mistake after she received a letter from the client’s husband.
“I am writing to you because I recently received an album containing images you took of my wife,” the husband wrote. “These pictures… while they are beautiful and you are clearly a very talented photographer… they are not my wife.”
The letter continued with him explaining that his “heart sank” when he opened the photo album because all of her “flaws” had disappeared.
“When you took away her stretch marks, you took away the documentation of my children,” he wrote. “When you took away her wrinkles, you took away over two decades of our laughter, and our worries.”
The man then thanked Haltom for making him realize how much he loves his wife “just as she is.”
I am (blank)’s husband, ********. I am writing to you because I recently received an album containing images you took of my wife. I don’t want you to think that I am in any way upset with you….but I have some food for thought that I would like to pass on to you. I have been with my wife since we were 18 years old, and we have two beautiful children together. We have had many ups and downs over the years, and I think…well, actually I KNOW that my wife did these pictures for me to “spice things up”. She sometimes complains that I must not find her attractive, that she wouldn’t blame me if I ever found someone younger. When I opened the album that she gave to me, my heart sank. These pictures…while they are beautiful and you are clearly a very talented photographer….they are not my wife. You made every one of her “flaws” disappear…and while I’m sure this is exactly what she asked you to do, it took away everything that makes up our life. When you took away her stretch marks, you took away the documentation of my children. When you took away her wrinkles, you took away over two decades of our laughter, and our worries. When you took away her cellulite, you took away her love of baking and all the goodies we have eaten over the years. I am not telling you all of this to make you feel horrible, you’re just doing your job and I get that. I am actually writing you to thank you. Seeing these images made me realize that I honestly do not tell my wife enough how much I LOVE her and adore her just as she is. She hears it so seldom, that she actually thought these photoshopped images are what I wanted and needed her to look like. I have to do better, and for the rest of my days I am going to celebrate her in all her imperfectness. Thanks for the reminder.