Who is Bobbi Kristina Brown’s ‘husband’ Nick Gordon and why is he not by her side?

Posted: 8:47 PM, Feb 11, 2015
Updated: 2015-02-11 21:19:21-05

NEW YORK (CNN) — Questions have swirled around the nature of Nick Gordon’s relationship with Bobbi Kristina Brown for years now — from how he became part of the family to whether or not the two are married.

Gordon was just 12 years old when he joined Whitney Houston’s family.

“My name is Nick Gordon. My life changed dramatically when I met Krissy and Whitney. I was going to high school. My mom had kicked me out of the house.” said Bobbi Kristina’s Boyfriend Nick Gordon.

Whitney Houston took Nick Gordon in at the urging of her only child, Bobbi Kristina Brown.

“We were best friends long, long, long ago.” said Bobbi Kristina Brown.

Whitney never adopted Nick Gordon, but did allow him to live with her famous family — growing up alongside Bobbi Kristina. When the singer died in 2012, media attention began to focus on Bobbi Kristina and Nick Gordon’s relationship.

He downplayed the idea they were dating to ABC News saying, “We’re just close — Just going through her mom’s passing and grieving together.”

He also confirmed on Twitter that he and Bobbi Kristina are not blood relatives, writing, “For the stupid PPL out there, she gave birth to 1 child. And she trusted me with everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Whitney Houston’s brother told ABC News, years ago, that Nick Gordon was like a son to her. But not everyone in the family is feeling the love. In fact, Bobbi Kristina’s aunt got a restraining order against him, last year. She claimed he posted photos of guns and made threats against her. A Georgia court granted the protective order for one year, forbidding any contact, finding she was in reasonable fear for her safety.

Gordon has had other trouble, too, like a DUI arrest, last August. Despite his issues, Bobbi Kristina said yes when he proposed. She was spotted wearing an engagement ring.

In July 2013, Bobbi Kristina wrote on Facebook, “Yes, we me Nick are engaged. I’m tired of hearing people say, ‘Eww your engaged to your brother. My mom never adopted him.”

About six months later came the announcement on Twitter that the couple had secretly been married. A lawyer for the family says they are not husband and wife. But still, Bobbi Kristina Tweeted in January, last year, “#HappilyMarried so #InLove.”

A follow-up to gushing Tweets like this one, “@NickDGordon you are my moon, my sun, my love of my life . I’ll be by your side4 ever. You are my world.”

Meanwhile, the man she calls the love of her life is not at her bedside. Police are taking a closer look at his actions the day Bobbi Kristina was found, and a family friend says he’s not welcome at the hospital.