NEW YORK (PIX11) — Marina Pearson was a graduate student at New York University when she started an affair with a fellow student that ultimately ended a five-year relationship with her husband.
“I knew I was (hurting him), but it was like an addiction,” she said.
Pearson’s personal journey led her to a new career as a life coach, speaker and author of the book, “Goodbye Mr. Ex.”
“There’s a lot of people who may have been through this that don’t have an outlet to talk about it,” she said. “They may feel really guilty. They may feel like they’ve destroyed their lives, and I don’t want that for anybody.”
She said that a few years out from her affair, she can see the cheating for what it was: the product of resentment that began building long before she strayed.
More than 800,000 New Yorkers are cheating — or planning to cheat — on their partners, according to data from a dating website catering to women and men already in relationships.
A PIX11 producer joined the site — AshleyMadison.com — and was flooded with invitations from men, some of whom were not shy about their intentions.
“I’m married and tired,” one said.
“On this site to find good times I normally don’t get at home,” another wrote.
The founder of Ashley Madison, Noel Biderman, told PIX11 News that cheating is actually “good for most people having affairs,” saying the effects of infidelity often lead to positive results for both members of the relationship. That is, until that undiscovered affair is uncovered.
He said data from his site has pinpointed relationship “potholes,” identifying at what life stages men and women are prone to infidelity.
Read more about these so-called potholes in Part 1 of this series, here.