Girl who says bullying drove her to attempt suicide speaks out

QUEENS VILLAGE, New York (PIX11) – A 12 year old sixth grader who used sharpened pencils in attempting to slit her wrist told PIX 11she was partially motivated by the recent suicide of another 12-year-old, who lived up the street from her in Queens Village.

“It made me feel like she did it, so maybe I should do it, too” Adrian Rodriguez said of Gabrielle Molina, another 12-year-old who was found hanging from a ceiling fan in her family’s home on 220th Street on May 22nd.

Friends and family said Gabby Momina was being called cruel names like “slut” by classmates at I.S. 109 in Queens Village.

Adrian Rodriguez said she, too, was bullied at Middle School 172 in Floral Park, since 6th grade started back in September.

“They started throwing things in my face like ‘Im ugly, fat, stupid, I don’t have a life.”

Rodriguez said she dropped from a “90 average to 70–or 60″ as the school year progressed, and her father told PIX 11 she lost a large amount of weight.

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“She lost 35 pounds in three months,” Arcadio Rodriguez told PIX.  “She brought food to school and wasn’t eating it.”

Adrian’s mother, Bianca Rodriguez, told PIX the family’s efforts to get help at the school fell on deaf ears.

It was a friend of Adrian’s attending I.S. 109–where Gabby Molina once went to classes–who notified a counselor that her friend, Adrian, was getting suicidal at M.S. 172.

“She did a heroic thing,” Adrian Rodriguez told us from her stoop on 220th Street, where she returned after receiving treatment at a Long Island hospital. “She saved my life. I’m so grateful.”

Adrian likes to play soccer, basketball, and guitar but she still feels down about some of the other kids at school.
“They’re probably hating on me now,” she said. “Because we’re getting everyone involved.”

The Department of Education told PIX 11 it received no complaints of bullying from M.S. 172 but told me there were two other “incidents” that had been addressed with parents and students.
School security threw PIX 11 out of the building, when we tried to reach the principal’s office.

Adrian Rodriguez, for her part, told us the advice she’s received from medical professionals: “to let everything out….to talk….never clinch things inside,”

7 comments

  • A Mom

    My heart goes out to Adrian and her family. I hope that it's possible for them to take her out of MS 172. My daughter experienced psychological and emotional bullying at this school for the better part of her three years there. We were consistently at the school complaining but since the administration does not report any incidents to the DOE, nor impose any consequences on the bullies, their progress reports and ratings make them seem like a safe school. Infact, bullying is a serious problem at this school and the principal would rather sweep it under the rug than address it. I also think that parents need to address this bullying and meanness at home. I don't know what makes it okay for a child to send out slandering texts to entire contact lists against another child, manipulate others into excluding them socially, or collect signatures in a petition to "hate" a person. But these are the things my daughter went through. Parents and schools can't continue to throw their hands in the air suggesting that kids will be kids and too many of our children are getting hurt.

  • Lvivnilla

    Get hold of the bullies and damned well expel them. If they cannot behave themselves in a normal school environment, they do not deserve to be there. Let their twisted excuses for parents pay to educate them or send them to juvie. Tis is one place where zero tolerance is not only appropriate but necessary.

    • wtfever

      [stylistic gripe]"hanged herself" is to "hung herself" as "isn't" is to "ain't"[/stylistic gripe]

      In regards to the article: when are we going to stop encouraging a general victim mentality, and giving undeserved attention to bully-related suicides? When are we going to tell children and young adults that regardless of how rough life is, ultimately they are responsible for themselves and their own actions.

      Bullying is a natural phenomenon as demonstrated in other social animal groups (e.g., birds, dolphins, giraffes, other primates). Eradication through zero tolerance in a diverse setting such as a public school is unrealistic and I think it undermines psychological development–hence why so many kids these days end up self-mutilated or hanging in a closet the minute someone makes fun of them. I think we need to teach kids that while they will never have control of the environment around them, they have absolute control over how they respond to this environment, and that is really all that matters. I also think we need to teach them that it is okay to get angry and upset, but not okay to wallow in that state.

      This isn't to say that we cannot and should not teach children and young adults to be more empathetic and humanistic. I just disagree with your implication that bullying is abnormal and that zero tolerance will somehow stop it. School is a place where learning to socialize is just as important as learning maths and letters, and for many kids bullying is an unpleasant but unavoidable part of that learning process.

      I also take umbrage with the notion that one can teach tolerance by means of intolerance. It smacks of "war is peace" sophistry, and it's disturbing to read this phrase so often these days.

  • manda

    personally i don’t think it is appropriate to highlight kids/teens who attempt or have succeeded with suicide. Yes, Bullying is an issue, but highlighting kids/teens like this only shows that if you attempt suicide nowadays, you could get glorified/be in the news and newspapers. Everyone is bullied in their life time, we all know bullying is a problem and that there are now consequences for it, now lets teach these kids/teens the appropriate way to handle being bullied if they are.

  • sammypanda

    I was bullied in that school. Im in 8th grade now. I went through everything she went & went to the hospital. The kids in the school are terrible.

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